Preparing your child to become a big brother or big sister
The arrival of a baby is a magical moment, but also a big upheaval for the whole family. And for your older child, it's an important milestone: they will no longer be "the only child" but will become a big brother or big sister. To help them welcome this change gently, here are a few simple and practical tips.
Before
birth
Making
the announcement
The moment of the announcement is precious! Depending on their age, you can think of different ways to tell them:
- in the form of a fun little riddle
- by giving them a symbolic object (a pair of baby booties, the pregnancy test, an ultrasound photo)
- with a personalised gift just for them: a sweatshirt or a pouch with the words "Big brother" or "Big sister"
Finding the right words
Explaining what it means to "have a baby" is not always straightforward for a child. The key is to adapt your explanations:
- with simple words, if your child is old enough to understand
- with visual aids, such as the ultrasound photo
- through stories and books about the arrival of a little brother or sister.
Nothing better than giving your child small missions to help them feel like an active part of this new chapter. It strengthens their bond with the future baby. A few mission ideas suited to their age:
- taking part in preparing the baby's room
- sharing their opinion during shopping trips or choosing an item (a pair of pyjamas, a cuddly toy...)
- preparing a little memory box or gift box for the baby together
Getting them involved in the preparations
After
birth
Preserving their habits
While the arrival of a baby changes a great deal at home, your older child needs reference points to feel secure. As much as possible, keep their routines: school or nursery, mealtimes, bedtime rituals.
And above all, make sure to keep moments just for them: a bedtime story, a walk in the park, a one-on-one outing…
When the baby arrives, daily life changes a great deal. But your older child can also find their place through simple gestures suited to their age. For example:
- holding the bottle
- choosing the song to help the baby fall asleep
- helping tidy up the little things
These small roles enhance their status as the "big one" and strengthen their sense of usefulness.
Give them a
daily
role
things your little ones say
« Today it's not Wednesday, it's dad-nesday » - Lou, 4 years old
« Mum, turn off the tap or there'll be no more batteries » - Margot, 3 years old
« Mum, if I don't brush my teeth I'll get kiris! » - Lola, 3 years old
AUTHOR
Hello, moi c’est Capucine ! J’espère que cet article vous a plu. Passionnée par la rédaction et spécialisée dans les contenus autour de la petite enfance, je fais partie de l’équipe éditoriale de Petit Picotin. Au fil du blog, j’explore les questions du quotidien des familles pour vous partager conseils, idées et inspirations, en m’appuyant sur des recherches, des sources spécialisées et l’expertise de notre équipe.
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